We don’t always keep moving ahead, we don’t always have everything planned months and years ahead. Sometime, somewhere, you are going to get stuck.
The problem, however, huge it might seem at the moment, it could have a really small solution or it could be something so big that you are going to be second-guessing yourself.
It might something as little as changing the color of your advertisement banner that drives in more people to your restaurant or it might be as big as showing the door to your chief chef or changing your decade-old cheese supplier, probably only to find a better one. For change does not always cause a problem, at least never as much as we think it would, for most of the part, it is for the better.
But knowing what to change, or rather just knowing that you need to change is not quite evident and knowing someone who would tell you exactly what you need to do is nothing less than a miracle.
But what would you do when you don’t know what you are supposed to do and don’t know where you are headed next.
Well sometimes, when you need advice, talk to yourself. For sometimes, the best advice you get, is from yourself.
Only you are responsible for what happens in your life. So, you could be the one that changes your life, by just doing something that you always felt you should. So just go ahead, and talk to yourself.
He looks so good, she is so cool, he has such a nice group of friends, he just keeps traveling around the globe, she is always partying, she is a model.
He is rich, has a villa, has a loving girlfriend, his life is sorted.
She cleared her finals, she has a nice job, a loving fiance, her life is sorted.
We all stalk people through social media and assume that is their life. That is how they live and that they have everything they post photos of. We see their constant happy uploads making us jealous and want to hate our lives.
What we fail to understand is that social media is just a fraction of what the life of people really is. A lot happens in the 24-hour day, and it cannot be said over a 10-second long video. People pull their cameras out only in the happy moments thinking about capturing it forever and look away from regrets and sorrow thinking they will actually forget it.
But is it really how it works? Do you really capture a baby’s first step in your camera, or in your mind and smiles that you will remember forever? Or do you pull out your camera when you learn to swim? Or do you learn and then pedal away into the oblivion not thinking about what is going to happen next.
Are happy moments actually captured in a video or are they captured in the memories forever? Do you see through a lens and then see it everytime you wish to? Or do you remember and relive a moment that will never come again?
The grass always seems to be greener on social media and in the chase of the greener grass, we forget to sow the real seeds in our lawn.
We get one life, so let’s spend 15 hours a day on social media trying to get accepted by strangers we don’t even care about, or maybe, just maybe, not.
You are skinny, you are fat, you are tall, you are short, you are ugly, you don’t dress well, you have slender fingers or you have fat toes.
Whatever it is you are hiding, whatever is your deepest secret, stop fearing it and start celebrating who you are, because you are… Perfect.
All the norms, all the welcomes, all the good and all the bad are just scripted by the people who are afraid that the world won’t accept them for they are not as good as you are, for they are afraid that they are not perfect.
We have been chasing these “goods” and trying to be “good enough” and get “accepted”. All of us, have lost ourselves trying to be good enough and getting accepted by the people we don’t belong to. We have been trying to chase the dreams that are not ours, but the ones people told us to dream. Do you even remember who you were before the society told you who you are?
Were you an engineer? Or are you one now? Were you going to be a pilot and soar the sky, or be an astronaut and escape the earth? Do you still wish to leave the planet? Or are you happy making transaction entries? Who are you? And what were you? What were you going to be?
We have chased things we don’t want and we only seem to regret not getting them, instead of regretting the idea of chasing it, because you never wanted it. So whoever you are now, whatever you have and whatever you don’t have, don’t let people tell you who you are.
Don’t regret losing a battle, don’t whimper upon a defeat, because you are not meant to be someone, you are meant to be perfect, you are meant to be… you.